No one likes to be criticized. Constructive or not, when most people hear criticism they innately internalize it beyond recognition. Resulting in a tattered negative view of what initially was a supportive gesture towards the recipitient.
Why does this happen?
Most of the time when we hear criticism we are often left confused of not only the opinion but most importantly the tone and delivery of such unsolicited "advice". What most of us don't realize is that when we give constructive criticism or hear it, it comes from a place of active internal criticism of the messenger, not the receiver.
Take for instance, a mother lecturing her daughter not to eat so much, regretting her own figure. When we see fault in ourselves we are quick to correct it in others. Sometimes this criticism has no validity but is due to the messengers internal struggle.
When criticism hits unexpectedly we are left confounded, perplexed at such revelations. But when we step back and are able to understand that the thoughts of feelings of others have little to do with us at all, we can then decipher what is valid and what is simple projection.
Many people project on to others. This is due to our need to relate to others. Next time, you give advice, ask yourself if perhaps you are projecting your own downfalls on to others.
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